How does one succeed in life?

Ask yourself:

I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?

First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.

Hello,hope y'all doin good, i came to Quora to share my strange story , a very weird one , a story when luck smiled at me ,maybe u will enjoy it , let's begin,have fun... A year ago ,I was a real porn addicted(btw I was 18) ,but never had sex before, I don't have a gf I didn't try to find one even ,always thinking to go to find a sex worker but then I just don't , everyday watching different bodies getting fucked and everyday enjoying. One day, I was watching porn, a big ass lady with big boobs ,just after seeing her the image of my female cousin poped in my mind, (let's introduce her : she's 35 years old , very big ass , nice boobs ,not very big but nice,always wearing tight clothes , she's divorced ) and I thought of me fucking her ,I never had sexual desires for her but now I do days went by and when I met her I was so horny ,I couldn't stay with the family cz my penis was clearly erected , I realized this is my first time I get horny for one of my family ,it not illegal in my country.well to make a long story short( if u want details just text me I will tell u 😊),I decided to give her signs that I want to fuck her,finally I decided to have sex and with my cousin , I thought it is the best beggining for me, i started touching her when I came across her in a narrow place , make her feel my hard cock when we hug , I thought it will hard and I will be ashamed but no , I felt nothing and she said nothing , probably she thought it was by mistake,anyways, I decided then to talk with her about sex, waited for her to be alone in a room and talk with her, I confessed everything about me watching porn and addicted..etc,she said it's normal and u are growing up and u must have sex,well at that time I was like whaaat????? Well I didn't control myself and asked her for sex ( horny like I Ve never been before) she said that she will think Abt it ,2 weeka went by then she called me ,telling that she reserved a room in a hotel and we meet tonight ,we met,and bruuhh, sex is great , I mean, I had to find a pirstitue ,what I was waiting for to have such a feeling ????, I will never forget that night, I started kissing her she was kissing hard ,she misses sex so bad , she sucked my dick and swallowed my semen ,I felt I'm in a dream , then when fucked ,her ass was very big and the anus was open ,didn't struggle to get my hard cock inside it , she was obviously missing sex , she was shouting ,fuck me yh fuck me , I go fast after every word until I cum , we did that 3 times , then we went to her pussy , using condoms I fucked her so hard the moans were higher , everything was perfect ,in the end I asked her to lick her body , licked pussy ,ass, boobs,then she sucked my cock until we sleeped ,all I know that she was dirty ,well before even having sex with her I knew she is an open minded woman , and a woman that looks that she donesnt know anything , but she knows everything, but never expected having sex with her ,well she was horny and that helped...but no one of us regretted that sex ever.. We still have sex from time to time ,and I started having sex with sex workers , joining threesomes..etc If u want pics of her text me.

Losing 20kg is a goal.

Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.

Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.

Do you have any fantasies you are ashamed of?

Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.

Living to your full potential is a goal.

Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).

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What I need from you?

The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.

The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.

My son is possessed, now he has psychosis. Can someone help me?

Do not set goals—set systems.

Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.

Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.

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Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.

Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.

Hangs out with loser friends.

Why is my older sister so mean to me as if I was her enemy?

Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.

Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.

If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.

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An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):

Big dreamer but only in his mind.

Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.

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Opens a business and makes WiFi money.

Saving $10,000 is a goal.

Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.

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Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.

Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.

How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?

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That's it for today.

Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.

“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.

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Procrastinates a lot.

Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.

Making more friends is a goal.

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Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.

Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.

Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.

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Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.

PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.

In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.

Does not procrastinate.

Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).

However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:

Avoids sugar and is very fit.

Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.

How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?